Nollywood actor, IK Obonna’s Colombian Wife, Sonia Ogbonna in a post on Instagram took out time to school women on relationship issues, she went ahead to address the issues of ladies having to go to every extent to keep their man forgetting their worth – ‘Spending half of your life worrying about finding a man and spending the remainder worrying about losing him, isn’t life’ – In her words..
“Half of your life you worry about finding a man that will marry you,second half of your life you anxiously and desperately worry about other ladies snatching your man away.Is that one life? When you start seeing every other woman out there as a threat,best believe that has nothing to do with them,but with a nature of your relationship with your “man”.
We have been brainwashed through generations with false beliefs that make us think and act like it’s better to be humiliated,depressed and bitter in a relationship/marriage then single but happy and in peace . Baby,you can’t force or COMPETE for Love or live in constant fear of not being good enough,correct enough,sexy enough,interesting enough – a woman enough.
Your problem is not the next chick,but lack of self love,self awareness,self investment and disability of understanding your own worth and power you poses as a woman and that is what keeps you settling and tolerating miserable treatments.
Good ,healthy and loving relationship is not meant for “lucky few” but for those who are bold enough to move away from bitterness and frustration while not settling for nonsense in the name of tradition or “what will people say”.
From the bottom of my heart I pray you stop with self pity and understand the worth of a Queen that you actually are. BOSS UP! You are ENOUGH. You are a blessing. And remember,they will treat you bad only if YOU allow them. ” – Sonia Ogbonna ,2017 #soniaogbonna #IamMySistersKeeper